College is a wonderful thing.
Especially when the government gives you plenty of money to attend, above and beyond what is needed.
That's not the point here, though.
Just a few words to the kids who go to college straight from High School, live in the dorms, and have parents who pay.
Let me just say that you are lucky, lucky bastards.
Well, assuming you don't screw it up like I did. Then again...I didn't live in the dorms, commuted an hour both ways, and was going to a college I instinctively hated.
Anyway, you are blessed to have parents who can send you there in the first place, or at least help you out reasonably.
Dorms are supposed to suck. I understand this from what I've heard, never from personal experience. Of course, I've heard the other side, too, that dorm life was excellent.
Just depends on how you go into it, and luck with roommates I suppose.
Anyway, I have a small request to make of you, if you please?
Ever semester, I hear someone in one of my classes say, "I don't have enough time to do my homework, or to write my paper, or to study for the test because I have to (insert comment here from the following list).
- be in intramurals.
- clean my room/do laundry/etc...
- meet my boyfriend/girlfriend because (insert random dating ritual here).
- go to rehearsals/practice/home/the store/the club.
...Or they have trouble studying with their roommate around.
Another complaint on a different sort of note, is that they don't have any money for anything.
So, I hear this kind of complaint, and then I listen to things they say in class, or to friends.
Their parents, (some with government help), are paying for everything. They live in the dorm. They have a fairly new, if not brand new car. They wear designer clothes. They live for their cell phones.
When I hear these things, my teeth grind, because these little idiots don't have a damn thing to complain about.
If you can't study because of extra-curricular things, drop the extra-curricular things.
You don't need to do intramurals. You can clean your room or do your laundry later. Your boyfriend/girlfriend can talk to you later, or you can reschedule the date.
I suppose I can excuse practice and rehearsals, if they are part of your actual degree program.
If not, though, drop it. Your parents will understand you can't drive home because you have to study. you can go to the store after you study. You can go to the club after you study.
School comes first.
Then they complain about a lack of money. What else do you want?
Your food, housing, car, clothing, and cell phone are taken care of by others. Quit griping!
Instead of worrying about money to go out with, waste on fast food, or on things you don't need, think about how great you have things.
There are people who can't go to college. People whose parents can't afford it, even with government help. People who fall into that middle ground where you're too well off to get help, but too poor to do it alone.
Then there are people like me. I'm 24 years old, and just barely a junior, credit-hour wise.
I started college with a full scholarship. I dropped out after a year because I was under a great deal of pressure personally, not even in a college-related way.
A couple of years passed. I went to a community college for a year, and left it as a sophomore.
Then I got married, and we moved away from the nothing town in the nothing corner of a state, to here, Springfield, Missouri. We both enrolled in Southwest Missouri State University, where I had wanted to go originally.
That's a whole other drama, though. Maybe someday I'll share that, if it falls into good context.
Now, we're here, and we've been going to SMSU for a year.
Even with the excessive amounts of money the government has given us, we still have both had to work real jobs on top of going to school.
To all the college students I mentioned earlier:
Quit complaining. You don't have to worry about any of the following.
-work, (and whether it will work with your college schedule).
-car insurance and maintenance.
Plus, you try to find time to write term papers, do research, and (one of my most hated things), group projects for your classes, on top of all that.
We worry about whether we'll be able to eat.
You worry about not getting your McDonald's instead of the cafeteria food.
We worry about keeping our cars insured and legal.
You worry about whether or not daddy will let you get those pin stripes on your Mustang.
We worry about how long our clothes will last.
You worry about how long low-rise jeans will be in fashion.
See the difference?
Can't you see how easy your life is?
Stop worrying about the small things, the unimportant, juvenile, pointless things and look to your future. Enjoy the time you have, but use it wisely, and appreciate the gift you are being given by your parents, your school, and your government.
Most of all, stop whining about those pointless things aloud in class.
No one cares.
If they do, they're as shallow and ungrateful as you are.